The Search of...

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Something better. That's my generation it seems. We're re all looking even if we have exactly what it is we need and want. There's some belief deeply rooted in our minds. Its that deep want and belief that maybe were missing out on something even better than what we already have. I for one am terrible with this, i want so desperately to have the best of everything, from hair, to clothing, to love. Love, that's the tricky one. Do we ever stop looking for our one great love? What if we already have our great love? Is it that we only get one great love? Can we get multiple options for our happily ever after?

I personally want so desperately to feel loved unconditionally; find my other half, the person who will face forever with me. But, alas I am a hopeless romantic and idealist. I don't know if you've had the opportunity to learn that about me yet or not.

I'm sure by now you wondering what this has to do with hair right? well here's the loop. Stop looking for something better, feel free to change, but not scared to trust. Try keeping the same stylist, They know you, they know your style, how your hair lives, how you live. They've been cutting your layers and and know how to maintain what you love. The same is true with relationships, if we keep sampling other lovers, well, we pick up little pieces of them and leave pieces of ourselves with them. The next thing you know your walking around the product of diluted misguided actions. Your hairs uneven and your personal life's one round brush short of a great blow out.

Now, let me challenge you if you like me are date hopping, stop, give them a real chance. Give your hair stylist the opportunity to be everything you want. And don't be afraid to trust and take in what they have to offer you.  This could be a truly pivotal point for me, and you. Lets make a change.

So much...

has been happening this week! ahhhhh!

 - So I taught a PK (product knowledge) class on the Curls line!
 - I got to meet Alee Kao (he's kind of a big deal) the PM artistic direction for 14 Eurasian countries
 - Received the amazing honor of being Future Professional of the Month - November
 - Recieved a F.A.C.E. award for my return clientel
 - Survived my graduation ceremony
 - And got the flu, all in one week.
 - Oh, and one of the most prestigious salons in town has been expressing interest in me after school.

So where do you go when all of your hair school dreams come true?

Well I havent had time to figure that out yet. But I'm hoping its somewhere warm. - or I could just wait for the room to stop spinning before I make any new plans.

And Speaking of warm, if you havent tried this product it should be on your shopping list the next time you go see your hair dresser!

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Thermal Protection Spray

Basics:

Protects fragile strands from damage caused by heat styling.

Benefits:

Boosts hair’s strength, fights frizz and provides flexible hold.

Bonus:

Adds great memory for effortless curls or smoothing with a hot iron.

Details:

• Rice hull extract builds a weightless barrier between hair and heat styling tools.
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Sizes (oz): 1.5 6

 

labels.

Label: Noun. A small piece of paper, fabric, plastic, or similar material attached to an object and giving information about it.

What labels do we attach to ourselves?  What labels are attached to us by other people? Better yet what do labels have to do with this blog? Let me explain.

Labels don't really exist in the beauty industry, why? as soon as we label something its liable to change, short hair? - extensions. long hair? - bob. blonde? - 1N. There are many instances where this is more than true. But there are some labels we cant shed or hide from others so easily.  Those would be the labels we put on ourselves, the labels that are the most limiting and destructive. Failure. loser. alone. Not all labels carry negative connotation like mother, dad, sister, brother, friend, companion. But when we get so used to seeing ourselves in one light; the struggle becomes recognizing other aspects of ourselves. For instance I'm a homosexual hairstylist. Two labels that do define me one for my personal life, and one for my work life. both are things that I can love, accept, and appreciate about myself, but they're also limiting, I'm not a doctor, lawyer, or breeder. But a label can mean one thing to the person wearing it and at the same time mean something completely different to those reading it from the outside. For example to some I'm a walking stereotype. and lets be honest there's nothing that's a bigger mess than a walking cliche. But like any quality garment, I come with care instructions. I don't have to be washed in cold with like colors. I'm multifaceted, one label or a hundred cant define a person. Were ever changing and while somethings are a constant, others aren't. Everyday we have the ability to wake up and put on a new outfit - or daily perspective. WE have the ability to show the world how were going to be defined, I will never be defined as a victim or outcast. I will never be labeled as unloved, or broken. In all honesty I'm a little like my hair, a little ruffed up and occasionally frazzled at the ends. But that will never be how I chose to have people see me.

the truth is we live in a world that uses labels, we cant just sit on the curb and wait for the bus full of people that wont read into ours. The best thing we can do is pick ourselves up, dust of the labels others put on us, and strut it out. Besides I cant honestly think of a label that sounds better than Success or feels better than Happiness, and those are two labels I plan on wearing for a long time.

not enough time?

well, that seems to be the one constant i can count on as of late. I know I've been neglecting to write something new hear for a while and honestly its not from lack of inspiration. I think that I've just been trying to process everything going on. Want to hear some fun goings on?

-For starters i gave a 9 month old boy his first hair cut. He loved it! He got all sorts of attention from the girls on the floor and I learned some amazing new tricks to help deal with children from Melissa. She's a very talented instructor and I'm super glad we have her... I'll explain more later about why i love her. (Apparently duck bill clips work great for getting kids to look at one point - so they stop moving their head.  Just clip it on the cape.)

-Attendance haha... well mines been great haven't missed a single hour yet this month ;P and i plan on making up a total of four Saturdays this month. So my worksheets already pretty much done.

-I've also started searching for my post school era job. Which is no small feat. Its almost as overwhelming as going to school. But I've recently allied myself with Vicky and were taking it on together haha im just not sure if she knows she's as involved as I'm planning on her being.

- Acne medication vs. Wax. well in the case of today, acne medication and wax tied. I finished the service but my poor teenage guest just though it was normal for her skin to blister from being waxed. I simple dismissed her redness because she had already told me she gets very red, But when i realized it more closely resembled raw hamburger than human skin I began asking questions. It only took me two questions to get to the cause, acne medication. This is why I love Melissa, I grabbed her immediately and explained the situation. She remained calm which helped me regain some calm - clearly not all of it. But she explained the situation to my guest and let her know the redness she was experiencing wasn't normal. Then we explained to her about threading and how it would be a great option for her. Melissa even gave her a great home remedy for her sores, milk, apparently it takes heat out and will promote the skin to heal. (Acne medication cause the skins natural structure to change either by weakening it, or thinning it, which is why you should never perform a wax service on someone taking and prescription strength acne medication without permission from their dermatologist.)

-Finally i haven't made up my mind yet about confronting you know who from face your fears day. Am I being spineless? Should i just man up? I honestly think I'm waiting until i know what i actually want to have happen. Some part of me and I'm not sure why thinks that i can fix whatever the issue is. Worse  case scenario im only in school two more months.

- My final day will be in the first week of December! So excited!


Here's some product info if you like me are running short on time. :) Fast Form - love it, live it.

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Bonus:

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Details:

• Shea butter, evening primrose, avocado and
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So, thanks if you've made it this far once again haha I'm sure I'm not the greatest blogger out there, but i did just realize tonight that there's a typo in my blog title! fixing that asap.

I'll be the mean girl

Theres been a lot of cattiness and just general gossip flying around lately. Why is it that such an amazing field of work is tarnished by its reputation of gossip?  This is something i dont really understand... In paul mitchelle culture we have a bitch buddy sytem - to in part reduce this. but, what happens when your bitch buddy has loose lips? Or something things that by choosing one but bitch buddy their entitled to choose the whole class, or school.


I know in the end that the kind of people who are negative and love to have that kind of attention surround them are only limiting themselves and their careers. But what about everyone else in the meantime? Are  we supposed to just let them say and do whatever they want? to put it short honestly im tired of being defamed on a daily basis. Am i supposed to draw more attention to the already wild and extreme comments being made about me. I may not be the perfect person, but i can genuinely say i try to be a good person.


the craziest part of all of this now is that the person spreading these false accusations about me is not attempting to take out their feelings towards me on my friend.

Yesterday i resolved that i will be the mean girl. So, just like when a snake bites you, and you have to suck out all the venom; that's what i have to do. Gossip and lies are like  venom. I'm going to suck out all the venom from my life.  I'm going to resolve this if it kills me today haha. Dont worry i'm sure there will be a follow up post tot this.

- on a side not have you read the "be nice or else book"? its honestly very inspirational and it has some great advice. Today i will be facing someone and clearing with them. One way or another. I am resolved.

secrets, thats why her hairs so big.

There's a simple beauty in just getting your hair done, I mean it’s not just the act of cutting it strand by strand or coloring it section by section. There's a strong connection formed between client and hairdresser.

A truly great makeup artist once told me that we have two ears and one mouth so we should listen twice as much as we speak.  So how do you keep balance and make sure the conversation keeps its momentum? haha I just ask simple questions of course they have to be open ended, but beyond that sometimes it’s possible to even steer the conversation in a direction you want it to go; even more than all of that its important to listen. It’s extremely easy to pick up when someone’s tuned you out and given up on what you’re saying. - which is probably the easiest way to devalue your client and lose them.

Personally I try to not draw to many parallels between what they're saying and what’s happened in my life. I want the attention to be on them and not me; they're paying to have the focus be them.  Let’s face it I know a lot of people could enjoy a hour long journey into my life but let’s be real haha that's not why they're in my chair.

When your client opens up to you it’s not for you to share with every other appointment you have that day/week. It’s just to share with you. You don't need to take it to heart and mull it over throughout your appointment just hear it and let it go, chances are it doesn't pertain to anything you will ever need to know. If it’s something that affects you, use those amazing conversational skills and steer the conversation somewhere else. BE POSITIVE. Negativity hates POSITIVITY and will remove itself from your presence.

---- Thoughts on hair school this week.

Not everyone is going to like me, haha well I’ve known that for a while actually. They don’t even have to have a reason; sometimes people just don’t like you. Simple as that. But what’s new is this- I can turn out some amazing hair. What does that mean? I don’t need them to give me my value. My clients already do that for me. Every time they leave happy with a smile on their face for whatever reason, and I’m sure most of it comes from my personality and not their hair, I know I’ve made a difference in their life. even if it only last fifteen minutes after they leave, for one moment they knew they were beautiful and worth feeling that way.

Take whats told to you and stick it where it belongs, in your backcombing. I'm sure you can think of a thing or two to add some lift to your hair.

 

Caper - "my dreams, my future"

What is Caper you may ask? - Well let me give you the run down. It’s an intense three months of selling "bags" of product to win a once  in a life time trip to Las Vegas. (Where you will be educated by some of the biggest names in the hair industry.) Sounds exciting right? Well of course it is, or did you miss the Las Vegas part?!

But as with all great things, there's a catch. Students must sell 80 of the bags at my school to secure their ticket, and of course there are only 10 tickets. So this creates quite the predicament.... how does one go about selling so many bags when they're in such steep competition. I'm currently on the phone with my mom and we’re strategizing haha.  

This is what I’ve broken it down into. Three amazing and undeniable reasons to support a future professional and buy a bag!

1.      We aren’t always going to be future professionals, eventually were going to be out in the real world. And let’s face it even though it’s in Vegas were there to learn. By investing in our advanced education you’re investing in your own head of hairs future.

2.      It’s not just helping us, it’s also helping yourself you’re getting a great price point on professional PM product! – Which of course we both know you’re in need of…. Tresemme isn’t cutting it anymore. If your living in an adult world let’s try some adult products.  

3.      It’ll feel good. Even if you weren’t getting product out of the deal would it just make you feel good to help someone reach and achieve such an amazing goal, to help them experience a truly motivating and life altering experience?! 

Let’s be excited about this! I know I am. Opportunities like this don’t come every day for students living in the Midwest. We have a very wide range of opportunities but none of which include the possibility of meeting the people, who are the driving force behind one of the most successful and inspiration companies to work for - Paul Mitchell -  its far more than a range of products, its schools, and other material things. It’s a lifestyle, culture, and most importantly a family. By supporting your helping us to reach – our dreams, our future.

Did I mention its held at Caesars Palace???

;)